It’s harsh, I know.
We have short attentions spans.
And it seems like they are getting shorter by the year with each new brief messaging app that infiltrates our society.
I am not sure this is a good thing or a bad thing, but one thing I have noticed more and more is people want you to get to the point, like now. I have noticed this in my own life recently, and although tough to have someone “adjust” you in real-time it’s greatly beneficial to hear it.
Basically, I tend to “pre-empt” a conversation with background information, stats, or things I think the person I am talking to needs to understand as we are discussing a topic. I sometimes do this because I think ahead – determine what they will probably ask – and then simply provide it to them beforehand so they won’t need to ask it. And hey, it feels like I am more completely communicating to them what I need to say.
This doesn’t need to happen. I should just say what I need to say and if the other person has a question or comment, they’ll say it. And then I can respond the specific question.
There’s no need to ramble on and on when the other person really doesn’t want to know, or doesn’t care to know – even if you feel it’s a better way to communicate. The lesson here is respecting people’s time is really important.
If you find yourself feeling the need to carry on and give someone every detail, maybe think about how to be more direct with people. It’ll feel uncomfortable at first, but as you get more used to it you will start to naturally get to the point quicker.
And people will appreciate it.
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